Friday, February 4, 2011
Faith in what GOD has done!
Why Facebook (and Your Church) Might Be Making You Sad
We've been warned that social media can distract us, shorten our attention spans, disconnect us from real-life relationships. Now a new study suggests that Facebook might also be making us miserable. I suspect there's something to this, and it's not just about Facebook. It's about our churches.
Slate magazine cites a paper in a social psychology journal that started with an observation about how college students felt more dejected after logging on to Facebook. There was something saddening about "scrolling through others' attractive photos, accomplished bios, and chipper status updates." The students' moods were darkened because they believed everyone else was happier than they are.
Journalist Libby Copeland speculates that Facebook might "have a special power to make us sadder and lonelier." How can this be, though, when Facebook is generally so, well, happy, brimming with smiling faces and beautiful families? Well, that's just the point.
"By showcasing the most witty, joyful, bullet-pointed versions of people's lives, and inviting constant comparisons in which we tend to see ourselves as the losers, Facebook appears to exploit an Achilles' heel of human nature," Copeland writes. "And women—an especially unhappy bunch of late—may be especially vulnerable to keeping up with what they imagine is the happiness of the Joneses."
Yes, Copeland writes, Facebook can chronicle cute kids, and warm moments, but that is never the whole, or even most, of the story of anyone's life. "Tearful falls and tantrums are rarely recorded, nor are the stretches of sheer mind-blowing," she writes.
Now, in one sense, I want to say, who really cares about Facebook. If you are that absorbed in comparing yourselves to others in this way, shut the computer screen and detox from the blue glow. But, it seems to me, the very same phenomenon is present in the pews of our Christian churches.